How do I add aging issues to a life I have never been happy in?

I can identify with you in many ways. Since we are so far apart, I CAN promise you this; I will be praying H-A-R-D for you every day. I am known for being a prayer warrior, and l intend on making good on this promise.

Get a face lift. Expensive but if it makes you feel better, probably
worth it....but do wait until your teeth are in as you may be happy with
the results.

@kayraymat
You're My Kinda Person! When I was young I heard my Grandmothers complain about the "Mother Nature's reward for growing old". I was So Sad for them. Then when Mother & Mother-In-Law reached that stage where the wrinkles, sagging, etc. happened, I decided 'when the time comes I'm going to find a Cosmetic Surgeon, Give Mother Nature a Vacation & have a few "nips & Tucks". AT age 60 I Did IT! The surgery was successful, he turned back the calendar approx. 20 years! Then 12 years later I went back & he did a little more of his magic ... would I do it again, YOU BET! At age 88 I'm So Pleased when asked my age, I smile & share, & their response almost Always "Warms the cockles of My Heart" ! It's Not for Everyone, & you Have To start in your late 50's or EARLY 60's. Top Notch Surgeons will make sure you're in Good Health & follow up for +- a year after the surgery, just to be sure everything is going well.
Am I Happy with my decision? ... YOU BET! It had Definitely added to the Quality Of My Life.

I wonder if our parents felt like we do when they were aging, our world is cold and superficial with too much emphasis on outer beauty instead of inner beauty, even our young people are feeling too much pressure about how they look. When I watch the shows on television it makes me feel bad, everyone is beautiful and this impacts them to think that they are not attractive. Another issue that I have as a senior is how we’re being treated by other people, they have no interest in what you have to say and they sometimes make me feel uncomfortable, God help you if you’re still looking for a relationship because frankly older men are not interested in older women, as females we are more forgiving to men and all their flaws but not the other way around.

@kayraymat
You're My Kinda Person! When I was young I heard my Grandmothers complain about the "Mother Nature's reward for growing old". I was So Sad for them. Then when Mother & Mother-In-Law reached that stage where the wrinkles, sagging, etc. happened, I decided 'when the time comes I'm going to find a Cosmetic Surgeon, Give Mother Nature a Vacation & have a few "nips & Tucks". AT age 60 I Did IT! The surgery was successful, he turned back the calendar approx. 20 years! Then 12 years later I went back & he did a little more of his magic ... would I do it again, YOU BET! At age 88 I'm So Pleased when asked my age, I smile & share, & their response almost Always "Warms the cockles of My Heart" ! It's Not for Everyone, & you Have To start in your late 50's or EARLY 60's. Top Notch Surgeons will make sure you're in Good Health & follow up for +- a year after the surgery, just to be sure everything is going well.
Am I Happy with my decision? ... YOU BET! It had Definitely added to the Quality Of My Life.

Wanted some experience-sharing/views re: aging and accompanying diminshed self-confidence, and elevating and maintaining same. Whether it's mobility, physical or mentally self assurance-related. Some thoughts/experiences would be most welcome

@marschwart This might be of interest to you--https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/please-share-3-things-you-appreciate-about-being-old/

I've received many tender responses to my little story about seeing my wrinkles in the mirror.
I'm very touched by them. Thank you!

I hope it's not a mistake to share something about myself.

By my early twenties I was aware that I had regular mood swings, up - down every 2 or 3 months. Sometimes light, sometimes self-destructive.
I self-medicated with non-stop coffee and Camel cigarettes. It was a way to keep moving, but it didn't support a dependable work life. I survived, but sometimes it was a miracle.
One other miracle: my urge to smoke went away in libraries and bookstores. I spent a lot of time looking for...the book...the book...the book that would teach me what I needed.
At the age of 40 I found _The Hidden Addiction and How to Get Free_ by Jan Keller Phelps.
I stopped smoking! I learned to eat healthy foods. It was a lot to learn.

I began learning a profession that would allow me to work with my mood swings.
It was not easy, I made many mistakes, but I learned to deal with myself and maintain a professional reputation.
I helped others to learn.

37 years later, I'm not much different. My moods still swing and I can be very oversensitive, but I've learned to recognize myself. I don't react to myself, I just observe myself, knowing these are my feelings, and they will change. I don't bang against the walls. I'm even starting to understand why I am the way I am.

So, I'd suggest to others: You are who you are, and you probably won't change. Try to look kindly on yourself. And on others. If it hurts it's because it's not easy. Try to accept your journey. Try to enjoy the scenery. And my hope for you is that sometimes your walk will be a little lighter.
Sometimes the music may touch your heart.