@mgarrett9ball I am 7 weeks post-op and my situation is similar to yours, maybe I am a little better and maybe I can see a little progress over time, but still mostly incontinent when walking for more than a couple of minutes.
I am remaining hopeful that it will get better, doing kegels, working on getting approval to start PT/pelvic floor training, surgeon wants me to start on drugs to treat possible UTI and drug to stop bladder spasms (have not started either drug yet).
Have finally gotten into a better routine (pads, pull ups, changing throughout the day, etc) to keep myself dry and skin healthy.
It's easy for me to get discouraged, but keep thinking of the 3 month milestone, hoping for improvement by then. Also count my blessings that (as far as I know) surgery has made me cancer free, and small setbacks are worth the price.
Good luck! Hope this gets better for you.
@jeff1963 thank you for your encouragement. I tried condom catheter today for the first time and I am really impressed by how it has affect me physically and emotionally. I am learning with research that it's not a 24/7 fix but to go without pads for even a day is well worth it. I purchased on Amazon and can't say if one is better than another. I think getting the right size is key.