@birdie60 We are all different, and researching *everything* is my comfort zone. I believe I was calmer because I had done the reading.
People can say things, that I guess to them sound encouraging or supporting, but actually feels like a slap in the face. I told friends about my situation, it just seemed simpler but as time went on I said less. IDK maybe because this process can feel like grieving. And most of us are not very good at dealing with someone else’s grief.
Sure, there’s dealing with procedures, pain, side effects. But there is also grief about the change to our lives. And yes, there are worse things, and grieving can go on too long. But I think, recognizing it for what it is, taking the moment to feel it, then moving on is a powerful action.