Hi there. I too am a wife whose husband has prostate cancer, aggressive and in numerous lymph nodes. You may find that as you learn more and a treatment plan is put into place your anxiety relaxes a bit. I was right where you are one year ago. The beginning is full of scans and tests and it is scary and confusing. Waiting times between all the procedures can be excruciating. Prostate cancer is not a death sentence. It is a new way of living. My husband and are closer now than we have ever been. The treatments nowadays are amazing. Wishing both of you every success!