@maryvc , I sure hope a place becomes available soon in Memory Care. You sound like you are in need of immediate help with care. I’d encourage getting outside help pending placement. You might also see if there is any availability for respite care. Even a week for the caregiver to get rest and restore their batteries can help so much. I wish we had sought respite care sooner for my dad. His progressed fast and we had to get a hospital bed quickly due to his immobility. It’s amazing how things can change so rapidly.

Have you asked his doctor about medication? My dad took meds to help with agitation and to help him rest at night. Is there any reason to give him constant guidance? My father often did better with silence. I didn’t tell him what to do, unless absolutely necessary.

Take care and I send warm wishes that you will find support and some peace. Please post how things are going.