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Hi, @msblood I'm Scott, and welcome you to Mayo Connect. I found Connect in the early years of my wife's 14+ year journey. You are SO correct -- caregiving is exhausting.
I know we, and our journeys, are different, but your post triggered a couple of memories for me. One was how I began to manage visits. I explained to folks that their visits could not last longer than two hours. Even that was long for my wife's attention span and anxiety. I also said no meals. I also explained there were certain times of day that worked for a visit and others that simply did not. I also had to put the kibosh on any overnight stays as they were just too difficult for my wife -- and, like it or not, too much added work for me as her caregiver.
As I said, I know we, and our loved ones, are unique, but these steps did help ease my wife's and my burden.
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@msblood , that’s a really good analogy. You sure have a great attitude. I hope you do have help lined up. Doing it solo is extremely challenging. Even with help, I was quite overwhelmed. Caring for 2 parents, one with Alz was like living in a crisis center. Constant duties and high stress.
Has your wife considered the new injection treatment for Alz? I ask now, because it’s supposed to be a better new option for treatment.