@dsand3 I understand your reluctance to plan ahead for the worst, it’s hard to cross those lines. I also felt that way about moving forward with safety measures for our future. We have been married 52 years, also. My husband has a lot of confusion, but can still fake his way through some things with strangers, and work his phone at a lower success rate. But I approached updating important things by tippy toeing into each thing methodically. It helps that he can be convinced of things easily, sometimes, I have to feel my way into it. Baby steps, but do get finances, powers of atty for finance and medical in place if you haven’t. Just try vague honesty about taking safety measures “just in case” something were to happen to ‘either’ of you so you’re not left in a bad place, because then it would be too late. Mine didn’t love dealing with it all, but just accepted it. It can take some time, we’ve been working through it since early October, but we wanted to change something after the fact, so that stretched it out more.
Good luck. You can handle it.