@gratia

I am mortified at the idea that your very ill mother was turned away from a care center. I have to ask you if this was a memory care center? The idea that someone is too ill to be helped is outrageous.

Regarding your mom's nighttime urinary issue, I saw a commercial on TV for a Pure Wick. It is an external catheter that has tubing and a pump to draw urine away from the body into a canister so that your mom would not have to get out of bed in the middle of the night to pee. Not sure if this is something that would work for your mom, but it might be a possibility.