@sueinmn Wow, great message. It's my wife and me in this and we've had our foot in the water since she had a stroke about ten years ago. I realized back then there would be a time when it would be her or me. A couple years ago she was scammed and I got the police and every other government agency involved that I could apply to. I saved her many, many thousands of dollars only because she forgot I was her POA after she'd had a stay in a facility recovering from an almost fatal UTI. With the help of her bank and the police and her financial guy, she finally cooperated to stop communicating with the scammers and changed all of her contact information. She hated me for at least a year. She believed she won the Publisher's Clearing House Sweepstakes and I cost her five million dollars. I've dealt with some hard issues and tried to remain sane through it. I have stories and records of the not so good times with mom.

I've been very direct, blunt, to the point with what she needs to do to remain in her house but ultimately, she lives in a world she controls. I've had it rammed down my throat and if some authority can remove her from her house, I'll believe it when I see it.

So about doing for her in the future. I figured out the most important part some time ago. It's trying to remain sane and forget that we have any semblance of a right to our own lives as our years dwindle away. If my wife wasn't an angel, I'd remember the hell it's been at times. But now, for some reason mom seems to trust me a bit. Maybe it appears I'm nibbling around the reality of this matter. The reality is.... what's next? I'll tell you. She just told me she's taking her car to get it inspected. It's a 15 mile drive. Last time (two years ago), she drove to the inspection station but didn't tell me because it failed. There was a dealer about a mile away from her house. She gets it serviced there and drives by it regularly. I told her the dealer can do the inspection after she told me about it failing. Trust me, it gets worse.

Summed up, as @celia put it "that's great news that the driving may stop." At this point we take what we can get. So that means I'll get to take her car for inspection since I know I have no other choice. Trust me, I can ask hard questions, the problem is I'm usually asking myself.
Thank you for your help.