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@woojr , that’s great news that the driving may stop. I’d keep in mind that if she harms others she (or her estate if she doesn’t survive)could be subject to legal action as well as family members who knew of her risk and didn’t prevent it. You can check with an attorney in your state to confirm this.

Does your mother have an Advance Medical Directive? That helps make it easier to enforce her wishes. Some people want to focus more on quality of life than quantity. It seems your mother has had both.

I recall determining my dad was not taking his meds correctly, though he protested and showed me his log book. I wrote down the date they were filled and how many he had left….and it was way off. He hadn’t gotten some refills in over a year! So….I took over the meds management. He was livid and a big deal. But my mother and I insisted. It was a huge ordeal. Undoubtedly, it extended his life, but he had dementia and I wonder if that wasn’t necessarily a good thing. Talking to a senior about being more careful with meds isn’t usually helpful. The only way to make sure is to have someone else administer it. There are devices that you program and they open the slot at a designated time and announce take this pill now. But, there is no way to ensure the patient will follow the instruction.

My dad eventually had very low pressure (bottom number 35) and was taken off BP meds. It can cause weakness, dizziness and falls.

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@celia16 Yes Mom has advance directive. As far as auditing her pills, my wife has been checking her numbers and says she's been okay. I have a process when I call her, which is now at least twice daily if I don't see her, that includes questioning her about all the daily necessities. Like eating, BP, how do you feel, sleeping, bathroom use, itching, and whatever i say usually ends up pissing her off because I cross examine her on something.

I was just talking to my wife about a device automatically meting out the right pill and keeping a record. This thought led me to start searching "latest AI technology for adults." I just started a few minutes ago and it appears there's opportunities there. I'm not a tech guy but I think the falling and can't get up has a future.

As far as her BP, she's always searching for supplements instead of just taking her pills. Her philosophy has been, if one is good, a dozen is better.