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How do single people cope daily with chronic pain?
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@rivermaya34 I have multiple injuries from car crashes -people in MN are aggressive drivers. Side effects from a poorly done brain surgery for an unruptured aneurysm. that managed to include permanent kidney damage from a angiogram Deal with chronic pain at night. Can handle pain in the day. Steroids are useless. Botox does not do anything. Injections have not worked. No family either locally or anywhere else but considering that is not a negative although Minnesotans are blankly uncomprehending that anyone cannot have a family. So very little support. I can handle pa n in the day but not at night. Medicines are too weak. I tend to use anger as a motivator to get me moving. (atheist so praying …. no). I try to get involved. Community things to distract. My animals are a necessity. Garden when I can despite physical limits. Wish I were still able to dig -found it therapeutic.
Obviously deal (or don’t) with depression.
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@ailsas My dear, it sounds like you’ve experienced huge challenges from the aftermath of the car crash. I admire your strength and understanding of your needs and what works for you, thank you for sharing your experience.
I get it when you say you use anger as a motivator! That’s how I got my front room cleaned on Tuesday or Wednesday, I can’t remember. I had brain fog, lol, and I was angry and fed, so that motivated me to tidy up and clean. Cutting up old correspondence and stuff I no longer needed was a great feeling. Things from the past holding me back. The relief I felt lowered my pain levels, but the pain was still there. It eased my tense muscles, so I had an afternoon nap later in the day due to fatigue and exhaustion, even though I paced myself, lol.
Use your anger to channel your energy and distract yourself from your pain, as long as you’re aware and it doesn’t drift into low moods because you know chronic pain can send us into a rabbit hole. What about laughter? Do you watch comedies? They work a treat for me as a distraction too.
Gardening is such a therapeutic pastime, and I understand why you miss that too. Do you have houseplants? I know it’s not the same, but some greenery with a little bit of soil to dust your fingers in.It’s also, great you stay connected with your community it's so important to have social connections. Do what soothes your soul, my lovely, and take one day at a time.
Big hugs, X
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@ailsas Anger is not necessarily a bad thing, and I agree with you that sometimes it's a positive catalyst. Don't feel bad - they are the same way here in SC. I get all kind of strange looks and comments from people who don't understand, but then, they don't have to because I don't owe them an explanation about choices I make in life. Your challenges sound very hard on both the body and mind - I'm so sorry all this has happened to you and you're in so much pain. When it's warm here, being out in the summer sun helps me a lot. But, when it's cold in the winter it's tough. I deal with seasonal depression and lots of other times thruout the year, so I definitely understand. I've always been envious of gardeners - their lush plants are always so beautiful! I'm terrible because I have a black thumb and I neglect plants (unintentionally) because I'm so scatterbrained at times. I always loved to dig deep holes when I was younger (got a hankering for archaeology - it's what I'm going into), but after I cut our phone line I quit. I hope you can have some better days ahead and pain free times, too. This is a judgment free zone - your thoughts and presence are welcome here. You are among friends. Thanks for sharing your heart.