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How do single people cope daily with chronic pain?
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@calmmylife57 Hey dear friend, seems we are kindred spirits from afar! My heart just sunk reading your post...I can identify with so much of what you said. If it helps any, please know you are not alone - as in, I am awake most nights for the same reasons. So, if you ever need anyone to talk to, please don't ever hesitate to shoot me a dm. I am so sorry you are dealing with all this 🙁 For me, thankfully, I can say that schoolwork and other things I'm involved in keep me busy. It's been nearly half my life I've been dealing with the physical stuff now and I'm so thankful for the struggles because they have given me the confidence and the ability to adapt. Bad days still happen - it's not in my control, but I've also learned that my mental perspective has taken me further than anything else in this journey. It seems like you have a good grasp on things, and I'm glad you have some great outlets to help cope. This might sound odd, but I'm a hopeless curious child at heart who loves to learn and wonder about things, so often times my mind carries me away to far away lands and that reality is far more pleasant than this one is at times. Over time, I've learned my limits and how to cope with fluctuations in stamina, how to set healthy (physical) boundaries and be 'OK' with that; it's still very hard. I've learned that tasting pain allows us to know goodness and help others, just like you and so many others are doing here. Even though it hurts, I am encouraged by your bravery in these challenges you face. Thank you for being willing to share and open up this discussion so we can learn from each other. I have many different routines 'n things I do when I can't sleep or my pain is high or my mental state is down, etc. There is no shame in any of that. I hope you can find healing and relief, friend. You're surrounded by strong comrades here.
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@rivermaya34
Thank you so much for your support message. I really appreciate it.
Setting boundaries and knowing our limits are so important for protecting our wellbeing and mental health. My pain hasn’t been this bad since the car crash, which was 13 or 14 years ago. My memory tonight is fuzzy, and I guess that’s why I’ve been struggling. I’ve stopped having the root nerve injection because I had a bad reaction two years ago that caused swelling and more nerve pain. The temporary effect was helpful, but now I’m feeling the full force. I don’t want to take too many opioids, but when it’s as bad as it is now, I have to.
The reason I want to go back to work is only part-time so that I can pay for holistic treatments and other pain relief, and I’ve always worked so its hard not being in a working environment, even though I’ve worked freelance for the last 3.5 years. I probably shouldn't work and but, I'm hoping that I can.
My cat, Cario, is my medicine. She’s with me throughout everything, unless my grand-babies stop over and the eldest one, who will be nine this month, helps me. She washes the dishes, hoovers up after the mess her and her brother create, and even helps when I’m cooking. She’s an angel!
But, yeah, just have to keep living life and embracing each day. Breathe, balance my chakras, and energy!
Peace and love! X
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@rivermaya34 I have multiple injuries from car crashes -people in MN are aggressive drivers. Side effects from a poorly done brain surgery for an unruptured aneurysm. that managed to include permanent kidney damage from a angiogram Deal with chronic pain at night. Can handle pain in the day. Steroids are useless. Botox does not do anything. Injections have not worked. No family either locally or anywhere else but considering that is not a negative although Minnesotans are blankly uncomprehending that anyone cannot have a family. So very little support. I can handle pa n in the day but not at night. Medicines are too weak. I tend to use anger as a motivator to get me moving. (atheist so praying …. no). I try to get involved. Community things to distract. My animals are a necessity. Garden when I can despite physical limits. Wish I were still able to dig -found it therapeutic.
Obviously deal (or don’t) with depression.