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Just to be clear, my mother refuses to carry a phone. She won't carry her cell phone which her plan includes a fall alert app. My mother doesn't believe "it will ever happen to her". This mindset carries on throughout her decision making process with everything.
The worst example was when I disabled her car, she called the dealer and bought a new car. They delivered it and drove to my house, blew the horn, looked at me, smiled, and left. I looked at the process for taking her off the road and got legal advice. She's been pulled over by local police and they let her go. She's had friends killed in accidents near her house and her comments are the same, "It'll never happen to me." That sums it up. People love her just the way she is.
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@woojr concern about driving, not only for her safety, but the safety of others…people may have great spirit, be lovable—just no longer safe driving. A hard transition but necessary
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this will never be your mother's story.
I ran into an old friend on a vacation in southern california. He was on his way to see his mother and I thought it would be fun to see her again. Her hearing aids had been missing for several weeks, so we had a furtive exchange notes the last of which said on the back --"don't marry him. " I returned the following day to find her hearing aids, which looked to be vintage 60's. Her car had been disabled by a relative. She had been told that there were no replacement parts. She hadn't seen close friends, had to walk to medical appointments and to the grocery. Her life had narrowed.
Older people have my heart in the way that babies and young children possess the hearts of some. (Mean while this has become self serving, as it is hard to find someone older than I am.)
A mobile auto repair was quickly able to restart her car and the mechanic explained to her how the car had "become" disabled. She was able to resume friendships, buy milk which was too heavy to carry on foot, and easily renewed her driver's license.
No one talks raising the driving age because of the deadly accidents caused by teenage drivers.
Three cheers for your Mom. And thank you, again.
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@woojr "Mom, WHEN.....it happens to you, it will be the first time in you're long and storied life that you've ever proven yourself wrong.'