any ideas as to how to handle my sister, that is what I really want to know as of now I haven't spoken to her in 3 months, I thought that she would see she is wrong, but so far no call back saying she is sorry

@misdeejon42 The only one any of us can change is ourselves. Unfortunately, your sister will have to make a decision to change in order to have a closer relationship with her family. We can frustrate ourselves when we try to change others. It is important for you to find happiness where you are. Best wishes as you seek some peace of mind and helpful friendships. Teresa

@misdeejon42, I am sorry to hear that you are in this hurtful relationship with your sister. I have read thru some of your concerns and I imagine that this is very painful for you to experience. It sounds like you are not going to change your sister, as this has been her pattern for years. I would encourage you to focus your immediate energy on the good relationship that you have established with friends and niece. But, also leave the door open for your sister whenever she decides to communicate with you.
Please know that I am thinking about you.
Sending you a hug,
Rosemary

thank you, I guess I've always have known she will never change, but I guessed that she would so we could have a sister relationship. so I guess I have to forget I have a sister, because I can't deal with the way she is thank you for your advise

@misdeejon42 Your comment reminds me of the Serenity Prayer that says, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." When your sister decides to change, then you can have a sisterly relationship once more. Best wishes! Teresa

@misdeejon42, You have been in my thoughts. In reflecting on your situation, I have realized that we have a 'sort of' similar situation in our family. One particular member has distances himself. Seldom calls or returns calls. Although there is no single event or reason that I know of, he just stays away from any family function unless absolutely necessary, like funeral or wedding. Just want you to know that you are not the only one out there.
Hugs,
Rosemary

maybe he is not doing well, money wise, and doesn't want the family to know how bad things are, maybe try to reach out just to know you are there