@plowey

If your mother and brother are both reasonably satisfied with their situation, I would let that be. If they don’t see a problem, and you haven’t seen actual evidence of abuse, there is no problem. So far as the daughter. I would admit to myself that I can’t control what she does next or 5 years from now. And so plan my life without her. If she’s around, it’s a plus. If not, life is still going to be good.

But it’s much more what you do now. I personally would evaluate the contacts I have outside my family. And compare them in the old and new places. Do I have contacts like church, friends, etc. in my old home that’s it’s worth returning for? Will they welcome me back? How congenial do the churches, civic groups, senior centers seem in this new home? Do I have the energy to make new friends?

Then I would look carefully at my finances. Can I afford a double move?

I am sorry you’re going through this. Sometimes there are no really good choices. Only the least bad choice. And that is what I hope you will be able to make.