My daughter also moved to the other coast 3000 miles from me after selling her home that was next to us. She was our neighbor for 30 years and we had a close relationship. When I asked her why she wanted to move she answered that she wanted a change of scenery. Well she has been gone for 8 mos. and her life has not changed much. I advised her that moving never changes the problems that you have that you just bring them with you. I was hurt and angry that she left and felt the need to be so far away and that she could have a change of scenery just moving a couple of driving hours away but she had made up her mind and nothing would change it. I am 77 yrs. old and have some health issues. We are still emotionally close and talk on the phone almost every week. I don't know I think that today's children don't really feel any particular need to help out their aging parents. Not sure why but it is what it is. If I were you I would try to make a life for yourself in your new home. Regarding your mother and brother, I think that trying to make changes to a bad situation (in your eyes anyway) us next to impossible. Unless he is inflicting bodily harm to your mom, I think that you have to allow her to come to her own mind about this. It is almost impossible to change the behavior in a situation unless that person wants to change. Why dont you give it 6 mos. to a year where you are before making any moving changes? I don't count on my daughter and I think that you should do the same. Get involved with people that share a common love whether it is volunteering or a hobby. I think that if we are going to give our children advice about things then we have to show them that we can make necessary changes in our own lives. Be the example if living your best life where you are, let your mom and brother figure it out on their own and allow your daughter to do what she thinks is best for her. Good luck and don't blame yourself if you need time to mourn the loss of a good mother daughter relationship. It's hard but necessary.