I hope you don't find my comments to be callous, unsympathetic, unhelpful, rude...I don't know you, and I can only try to make magic out of my own life's experience and what you have shared by mixing them up in a pillow case and hoping something useful falls out when I dump the case.

It seems you and your daughter are both 'changing horses in mid-stream'. It's very rarely a good idea, and virtually never a great one. You both are in upheaval, or at least she clearly is and is seeking some kind of respite, refuge, safe space....whatever you want to use as a descriptor for comfort and security. And it seems it is not going to be where you are about to close on a property....if I understand correctly.

Your daughter is mission-oriented to find a man. She needs a man, has gotten used to one for whatever reason (beyond me, and I'm a grandpa of four boys and a girl), but what do I know? My dad went looking for a wife when my mum died of cancer. They had been snowbirds traveling to FL each winter from Canada, and his new squeeze, with whom he has shared a life since 2003, was just down the street. My mum and he knew them well, and he fancied her. He emailed when he learned the was widowed about the same week that my mum passed, asked if she wanted to come out to British Columbia, and the rest is history. So, it's not like that chapter has never appeared in the Book of Life.

You have every right to be disappointed, even to say so to her. Should you? I'm gonna say no. She's young still and needs to claw back some security and love. You'll just make her feel bad doing it. I think you understand that, from your expressions above. Meanwhile, houses are only increasing in value, so if you decide in six months that it's not for you, and she says she misses you.....