Let me add another thing. I was super concerned with ED and incontinence and eventually came to the realization that neither would be the end-all. There are many steps you can take for ED (my doc had me on tadalafil for 30 days prior and 1 year post purely as a precaution, nearly off it now) with the last stop being an implant with a button in your scrotum to turn things on and off. But, if you have no ED now and get nerve sparing surgery then you have a very high likelihood of zero long term ED issues. For incontinence you can get slings and artificial sphincters installed to help. These are not fun things to experience and I decided that I could live without an erection if I had to but I would not live in a diaper my entire life and had plans regarding that if it were to be my long term prognosis (and no, not suicide).

I'm the success story, for better or worse, and feel free to DM me if you want to chat more.