This sounds exactly like my story except my son adopted her two boys from previous relationship and I helped pay for it...aside from that I could have written yours...unbelievable what appears to be more and more common these days...I'm not sure if it's lack of empathy, or that they just don't love us enough...but after raising mine as a single struggling mother I have a hard time with swallowing this and having a hard time just letting it go...letting him go...letting my granddaughter go...my life will be over one day and they will not be even able to relate to me as family...without years of experiences, conversations, and get togethers...I am just stunned at the level of uncaring disconnect...It's been over 6 years since I have seen them and only when I randomly notice that one of their facebook profiles, mydaughter in law has three, are on can I sometimes get them to answer, rarely(couple times a year) and even though I can hear my granddaughters voice they refuse to allow me to speak with her, this seems abusive to me really and I know that I'm not perfect, no one is, but I have never done anything so bad that warrants this cruel treatment...it all started when he started dating her and our phone conversations had to always been on speaker phone...that pretty much explains how his reprogramming started and now none of his family EVER hears from him...birthdays, holidays, mothers day...all go by without a sound from them...I did not raise my son to treat family or anybody like this...and since his wife and mother in law have already attacked and threatened me, it scares me to think of what he must be living on a daily basis and how my granddaughter is being effected by the hate and disrespect towards his family...