I went through what you’re going through; I even had a sling put in to support the bladder, but it made my incontinence worse. Finally I got to the penile clamps and found the dribble stop clamps the best for me. After experimenting I found the right settings. During the day I use the clamp plus a male oncontinence pad inside my regular underwear. At night I remove the clamp and let the tissues relax. Been doing this for 5 years. The clamps require changing out every 6 months or so but otherwise are very rugged. They’re foam and plastic so no issues setting off alarms at airports, etc.

Good luck on your journey with this.