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And the Academy Award goes to... Pretender
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Feb 7 8:10am | Replies (54)Comment receiving replies
@kartwk
I am now in Stage 8, having lost my DH in July, 2025. I do remember trying to understand what he was talking about and wondering how to respond. I finally came to a point where I discovered explaining reality and trying to help him understand what was happening was useless, even more confusing for him. I had a standard reply ready at all times. "Go figure" "Unbelievable" "Wow" "I don't know " were just a few. Any response would do. If I tried correcting him he thought I was arguing with him. I missed the deep conversations we used to have but came to realize that was in the past.
I hope this helps. Every situation is different but I want you to know you're not alone.
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@jehjeh
I am so very sorry about your loss, and hope you continue to be involved in grief support groups for this stage.
All the best as you navigate this new stage. I feel for you.
Judi
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@jehjeh I am sorry for your loss.
I know what you mean and I am finding out that any semblance of trying to correct him starts an argument which does not add anything to my day.
He did this twice this morning at breakfast and I just let it go and mumbled my agreement even though on the one I had no idea what he was talking about.
It is going to be a long rough road. Getting him anywhere near a neurologist is going to be a major thing. There is nothing wrong with him, according to him. I am the one with the problem.