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I’m glad you have everything scheduled so soon. It sounds like you are primarily dealing with anxiety about the unknowns, which should start to become “known” for you jn just a few weeks. I was diagnosed (G7, 3+4) a month ago, and for me the weeks leading up to it were worse than the weeks since. When you have so many unknowns, your mind tends to fill in the blanks with worst case scenarios — at least mine does.
In my case, the diagnosis, though still cancer, was more favorable than what I was fearing. Hopefully yours will be even better.
I’m a huge fan of educating myself, and this group has been the best forum for me to do that. That said, obsessing about cancer is not helping us. One suggestion might be to monitor and limit the time you spend online researching, and fill that time with things you enjoy — distract yourself a bit now and then.
This month will probably feel very long, but then you will have some key information that will help you figure out what comes next. Who knows, you might be AOK and able exit this group! If not, there are many options to consider and this is a great community to learn from. All the best to you.
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Agree. Got to have other things to do and try to find those that bring a smile or enjoyment.
When I am posting a reply to someone dealing with stress and anxiety (I am also on 5 other forums on MCC) I always mention mental health and finding something you like to do.
I exercise a lot and one of my favorites is water aerobics. I do it 5 days a week. Have about 10 out of 40 in class who are men. The class exercises in water with water weights to music and instructor. Just so much fun you don't even know you are exercising. We are all smiling and laughing so it is a great mind relaxer and getting you mind of things bothering you. Some of the new men and women who take first class talk about had not idea was that good of a workout.
I also post how important hobbies can be as exercise is not for some. Having a hoppy you like to do will also help move you away from stress and anxiety bring enjoyment. I have mentioned many times that history books always mentioned FDR and his love of his hobby "Stamps." He would spend a lot of time working on his stamp collections even during WWII. He also like to swim (in water you are almost weightless so compensated hid inability to use his legs). Many books talked about how much he liked to go to Warm Springs GA and swim because the water had some much minerals in it he was weightless.