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@kayraymat: It's very compassionate of you to understand and support @oodlesofeep's concerns, while acknowledging you would not necessarily pursue the same exact steps.

I'd like to take a moment to address some semantics here as there has been a paradigm shift of sorts to get away from the terminology that has been used for years of "committing suicide". That term comes from a time when suicide was a crime and implied wrongdoing, therefore, "committing" was attached to it. To remove the stigma of this being a criminal, sinful, or shameful act that carries blame and can negatively impact the grief felt by loved ones, mental health communities prefer the public say "die/died by suicide" to remove such judgment. This isn't to start a debate about how some individuals may continue to view suicide - perhaps from a moral or religious perspective - it is instead to understand that most suicides occur as a result of psychological distress or feelings of hopelessness.
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There is also a difference between this and elective end-of-life (EOL) choices, which is an evolving and highly regulated option that is being recognized, legal in some states and under regulated guidelines. Specifically, while suicide continues to be recognized as a public health emergency to be prevented, elective EOL care can be addressed under medical supervision with specific criteria and guidance in matters that considers the ethical response to "irreversible physical suffering" when treatment can no longer sustain or restore quality of life.

You may be "older" and you also seem to be "wiser" in terms of you ability to relate to others! Did this explanation add to that ability?

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@grammato3
Yes; thank you. I do see movement in some segments of society
towards an understanding of human suffering & self determination.
I read that there are 3 or 4 states that allow self determination
after a certain length of residence, in addition to counseling, but wonder about the people who can't travel to those states.
Do all states allow a person to refuse treatment....or is that up to your physician...or ???