I think acting is a large part of navigating a loved one with dementia. We go along to get along (but usually don't like it). I miss the person I married. I'm unhappy and it's important to recognize and acknowledge that. We have to take care of ourselves. We don't have to pretend with friends and family. And hope they will lend a hand of some kind when we need one, but if they think everything is fine, they won't.