@guyjeff123 I thought about an idea that was given to me when I worked as an oncology (cancer) nurse. You could write a letter to each child separately, telling them how much you loved them and how great they were in your life. Just a nice letter as though you were just down the street. Give them to a family member to put in an envelope and mail them to each child (after your death) on their birthday! Maybe I’ll do that for my grandchildren!
I wish for you a peaceful, loving journey.