Hi gen25. Don't be scared telling anyone I'm sure they will be shocked but you will have there full support it's a frightening experience. I was diagnosed in June and had op 16th July. Luckily it was early stage adenocarcinoma mucinous and hasn't spread so 6 monthly scans. I do have pain around the operation site as expected but this is controllable with pain meds once that's sorted I'm trying to get my life back on track I do have copd as well so inhalers for that... But really focus on the positives rather than negatives and don't worry I know it's hard but you will get there much. Love. X