@grandmajoan

Teepa Snow said something like, "You may be one person in the world, but to one person, you are the world."
My husband is similar to yours in that it seems he believes I exist to take care of him. When I tell him I'm sick or ailing, it just leaves him, like water sliding off a duck's feathers. But appealing to him for help because I need it also works. So he wears a tracker because I've told him if I get sick or injured I need to find him so he can help me.
I've recently figured out that I have to outsmart Alzheimer's, find ways to get around it.
I hope you feel better. Flu is no fun.