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Blaming and anger: How do you deal with it?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jan 31 8:00pm | Replies (87)Comment receiving replies
@pamela78
Its very hard to deal with be accused of “trying to be his mom”. when I want to work together he says ok, but continues run his life leaving me to clean up his pieces.
He is high functioning with horrible short term memory and long term is hit and miss. Its been 10 years and i still do not know how to be content. We bicker, i feel like his personal assistant, “Help me when i request.” He can pass the Mini test except for the word memory part, so Doctors say hes fine. He is not!
I dream of leaving.
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@rubyredkate , some conditions that cause dementia have more behavioral symptoms than memory such as Lewy Bodies,
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/lewy-body-dementia/symptoms-causes/syc-20352025
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@rubyredkate I understand. This is terrible for you. If you can't afford a senior facility, then can you get someone to come in to relieve you regularly? If none of that is possible, if I were in your shoes, I'd consider leaving and continuing to visit. Do you have kids? Does he? Relatives who could help? Ten years is way too long to be so unhappy. He has an illness, but you have a big problem and deserve help.