I know it hurts when your loved one doesn’t know you. Every morning when my husband wakes up I wait to see who I will be today… the days he calls me by my name are special because they don’t happen often. He identifies me as two people. The first is “her” and the second is honey or sweetie. I have figured out that “her” is the me that he doesn’t always agree with and who he gets angry with when I don’t give into his every crazy, agitated whim. Honey or sweetie is the one who is around when everything is going good and we are both in agreement. At those times he will talk about “her” like she is away for awhile. It does sound like your husband has dementia and I am glad you are going to the doctor Monday. Be very clear with your concerns and persistent with your need for help. Your husband may need some medication for dementia as well as something to help with the agitation. My husband was diagnosed 3 years ago. He is now on Zoloft along with his dementia meds, and frankly I don’t know how I would handle him without it. I hate what this disease is doing to him…and to me, but he has been the love of my life for 45 years, and I will be right beside him, caring for him…until I can’t. You will learn a lot from this Mayo Connect site. Many have, and are traveling this path and have good advice on how to handle most everything. Be strong, and take care of yourself as well as your husband.