@dj12 The question of how much one talks is an interesting one. I notice in myself and my kids how talk flows freely when people speak their first language together, their preferred language. I mean this both literally and figuratively.

In a multi-lingual family each person has preferences or a comfort zone. For example, when a conversation is in Czech, I can follow, comment, mostly understand but I might make mistakes. If it’s in English or French I can relax and talk more. If it’s in Spanish, I am a disaster. I feel good but overestimate my competence. For example, yesterday I mistakenly called a worker in my house Bonito (pretty boy or tuna fish)when his name is Benito. That created a huge laugh at me because in effect I made a pass at this Benito whom I don’t know and who is easily 30 years younger than I am. The men responded with sexual banter and lots of laughing.

What I am trying to say is that speaking the same language frees up talk, and that applies not just to actual language but to world view, psychology, politics, to place in the world. If you say a word, it will or will not be understood as you intended, and that either restrains you or frees you to talk.