@triciaann99 and @slarson14, thank you for the support and varied perspectives that you offer to the original poster. I believe that you agree on more than you disagree. You both agree that it is tragic to lose a child. Reliving the moments is a pain unbearable. As a parent, as a health care worker, as emergency services, as litigators, we wish we could do more.

Please do not let fear, sadness and caring transition to anger, blame and insult. The purpose of this forum is to share experiences, and give and get support.

A gentle reminder of the community guidelines. https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/about-connect/tab/community-guidelines/

We treat all members with respect. We only have words on the screen without the benefit of body language and tone of voice. Sometimes, the lack of body language and tone of voice can lead to misinterpretation -- or give the wrong vibe -- of someone's supportive intent.