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I’m 74F and single, no kids, have needed back surgery for over a year. Now my knees are deteriorating and I need my right one done “now”. But who will take care of my home or pets when I do have surgery. When I had a previous surgery I had family nearby. Now they have all passed away as have several close friends. I have had home healthcare providers in the past and I have to say the majority of them were absolute crap. No I’m not moving to a retirement home, no I’m not giving up my pets who are all the family I have left. I’ve made the decision I will not have surgery. I will continue as I have, just like hundreds of people in my community, living each day and dealing with pain until I die. I am a retired RN and I know how difficult it is to find good after surgery care. No one wants to pay more to get better trained people. Companies find employees who will work for the least amount of money. I wish more high schools would offer a path to nursing degrees and students could earn clinical time while providing after care. In the meantime, I wish the best for everyone in this same situation.

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@yrm Hello, I’m deeply understanding of your situation. I’m in the same boat. I don’t know if you read my post farther above. I have pets, I probably will need my second knee replaced soon too.

Having the first knee done, I was in rehab hospital for a full 7 days. It was a horrible experience. The night crew goes off somewhere and doesn’t pay attention to the call button. Finally I tried this. I had my cellphone with me; I had to wait and wait each time for assistance to go to the toilet. Then I started dialing out to call the hospital from the outside. I asked for the head nurse on duty. I explained my situation and she would send someone up. Even to add new ice to my knee cooling appliance! The irony of having to do this is ridiculous! Some staff do care, but not many.

We have to get better at playing this game. You already know the system deficits.

I suggest looking at the Pet care app Rover, to become acquainted with one option. Look for ones with a large number of high star reviews. I also suggest contacting your local senior citizen center to post a job listing for other seniors that visit the center. Not at seniors have mobility issues.
Be prepared, not scared. Be your own hero. I believe all of your complaints to be true. I am in the same boat.

Also try the Area Agency on Aging. They have a valuable amount of resources.

Good luck to you. I hope that my comments can help you or others.