@bellasdad
Your efforts to stay hydrated during the day may be the biggest problem, as you are saying. Instead of drinking so much water or liquid are you drinking electrolytes? If you do, you don’t need to drink as much water in order to get liquid absorbed into your system. Electrolytes work much better to do this. I use sugar-free liquid IV, It’s a powder you put into a pint of water and it gives you more energy and distributes the water more thoroughly into your body. Using an electrolyte can greatly reduce the amount of water you have to drink and the amount of peeing you have to do at night.

At first I was making the WHO version of electrolytes, which is a liter of water Two level tablespoons of sugar and a level 1/2 teaspoon of salt. I used tapwater and can drink it down in less than five minutes. A lot of electrolytes have a lot of sugar in them. That’s why switched to the liquid IV without sugar..

I take a pill (Myrbetriq) that reduces the urge to go at night. There are a couple of different drugs that do that one of them is Myrbetriq And the other is Gemtesa. They help reduce incontinence and the constant urge to go.

Some things to talk to your doctor about.