@dj12 I’m really sorry you’re going through this. What you’re describing is something many people with advanced cancer experience, and it can feel incredibly discouraging when you don’t feel heard.
It’s reasonable to want to know who is involved in your care. Your oncologist’s “team” often includes other oncologists, surgeons, radiologists, pathologists, palliative care specialists, nurses, and other individuals, but you have every right to ask who they are and how decisions are being made.

It’s also important to know that palliative care does not mean giving up. It can be provided alongside active treatment and is meant to help with symptoms, side effects, and quality of life. We have a newsfeed article discussing this topic in more depth if you'd like to check it out. Understanding palliative care: Whole-person support for cancer patients | Mayo Clinic Connect: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/cancer-education-center/newsfeed-post/palliative-care/