@ladybugcarebear that is a hard situation to deal with, especially when being defiant or sticking to his guns can cause him harm. It seems to me that @tunared shared a story a while back about his wife using the stove and leaving on the burner. Another situation that causes the caregiver distress and can do harm to the person with MCI.

So what does one do? That's a tough question to answer. But I'll try...forgive me if my suggestions are off-base.

I wonder if your husband might be taking issue with phrases that focus on him and what he should and shouldn't do. It's so tempting to say things like "You shouldn't shovel." Or "the doctor said with your heart you're not fit to..." "You can't..." etc.

Instead, focus on others. "Isn't is great to see young people willing to help their neighbors and shovel..." or "I'm thankful that we can pay these young people to shovel the driveway and they're off their phones for a bit..."

I get that his actions cause you stress. That's a lot to handle on top of everything. How are you doing today?