@eileenalana123--- thank you for saying I've been a help. its a lot of what the last 2 years and a lifetime of getting hurt has taught me. triggers- three that i use regular 1st is breathing in thru the nose and blow it out slowly, like trying to slow your heart rate. 2nd is thinking of a happy place not just a picture but lead up to it in your memory like a replay of a first kiss each second leading up to it. visual replay in motion. 3rd is laying back and watching the clouds roll by or watch for shooting stars. all you need is a comfort position and a good memory or imagination. take your mind off the problem for 15 min. then start whatever you were doing with renewed faith. close out the noise just thinking or breathing to steady yourself.