Yes, I like your comment very much. It does feel like my medical issues right now are serious, and I've been in crisis recently due to 3 different falls, head trauma, 3 ER visits.
And I really see what you mean about your grandmother feeling like she was her health issues, strongly identifying medical issues as who she was. Very good point. I think I was close to that, although I've always liked to talk about many things. Health issues were predominant for me, taking up a lot of time to resolve them. But a friend told me I was complaing too much. Another friend said I talked too much about them. I was trying to update her. So that's hit home now. I do like to talk a lot, and that was the main area to talk about for me. I've learned though that people just aren't interested by medical info about me or in general. I had studied to be a nurse, and then Social Work and I am still very interested in the whys and how's of all our bodies/minds. I also like to share about what I've learned about my and others bodies/minds. Right now I've focused about learning about medical issues, relationships, and the politics surrounding these. Im sure I've focused too much on these, and this has caused some relationship problems. Even now.
I do like to discuss people issues, and Im working more on focusing on others main interests and mindfulness about this. A long description of this I know.
Im wondering if your grandmother was any like this?
I very much appreciate the feedback and sharing! A work in progress...