Coping with age & serious illness. Anyone positive want to share?

Posted by ellu @ellu, Nov 20 5:45pm

I am a 72 year old widow and mother of 4 adult children. When my husband died 4 years ago I knew I had to reach out to make more friends, so I joined several local groups. I have some close friends and
enjoy going to community events. I have had bipolar disorder all my life (well controlled with medication), and earlier this year was diagnosed with Motor Neurone Disease. I am still leading an active
life and am philosophical about my situation. Is there anyone out there interested in chatting about getting older or coping with illness? I have ideas to share, and would love to hear from people in
similar situations who would like to chat about our lives.

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Juggling multiple conditions while aging is challenging…my late husband had Alzheimer’s and cancer, yet he found much to enjoy, just not like before….i have CRC and osteoporosis, yet make the most out of life I can, bit not like my life before…still, even within some physical limits the human spirit seeks for what is available…somehow, we manage…after all, we’re still here, still celebrate sunrises and sunsets ! I remember being in my hospital bed, luckily by a window, and even in my groggy state somehow loved the changes I saw as the days progressed……I feel a lot of this spirit in these postings .

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@nycmusic
Thank you for your writing nycmusic.
Regardless the writings i view and folks that respond, there is always, always, something to be grateful for. Thanks for reminding me! And, it takes a person with spirit to realise that encouragement and faith that is available always, and in many differnt ways.
As you so well stated, " somehow we manage and celebrate sunrised and sunset. Thank you greatly.
Jofree

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@nycmusic
Thank you for your writing nycmusic.
Regardless the writings i view and folks that respond, there is always, always, something to be grateful for. Thanks for reminding me! And, it takes a person with spirit to realise that encouragement and faith that is available always, and in many differnt ways.
As you so well stated, " somehow we manage and celebrate sunrised and sunset. Thank you greatly.
Jofree

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@jofree and I thank you, jofree—your words resonate with me very well…how true, that ‘‘encouragement and faith that is available always, and in many different ways’’… we are simply on new journeys, exploring the world on gentler terms.

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@jofree

Thanks for the encouragement. I certainly made it seem as though I am struggling mightily . I definitely have my moments. There is plenty to deal with and I have a well developed sense of humor and pragmatism about aging and death. I have a lot of curiosity about this whole process and it is good to know how others manage along the path. Thank you.

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@gravity3 you are so right —humor…and curiosity …make our journeys better…good words to remember !

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@gravity3
Good morning gravity 3: None of the balls are going to hit the ground: That is, they might, if you can't change the way you perceive your daily life. Most folks our age have all these plus additional health risks and my thought along these lines at my age follow:
Forget about gravity: it was here at the origins of the earth and without it, none of would even be here. What I am trying to say is, one usually cannot do anything regarding health issues other than changing a lifestyle or rethinking your diet. It is what it is. After my wife and I got through a colectomy, a permanent Ostomy, radiation enteritis, and frequent blockages, a few years later , I underwent a triple bypass: no stents, straight transfer to artery replacement from my own body. That was in 2017. Currently, both of us have atrial fibrillation...who knows what is next.
So my Wife and I, just get up each day, make our bed, do our laundry, get groceries in and climb on our trikes, recumbent, and ride off, sometimes 20 to 30 miles per day. If our time comes, I would rather be enjoying myself with my gal. I realize that you have faced challenges that definitely put you down, but attitude, can play a big role in ones lifetime. Your on our prayer list so write anytime so we can lift up each other. Remember, growing older is not for the faint-hearted. Be who you are and just do "one more thing for you, each and every day. Then, every other day, do something nice for a stranger. It's a grand life as long as we keep moving.
Jofree

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@jofree yes, 72 here and experiencing the same “life issues” — cancer, heart etc etc. But, my husband and I get up each morning and go! We camp, go shopping, eat out occasionally, do gkids baseball, softball, basketball games etc etc. Don’t stop living because of a few aches and pains. Whew! I need a nap—LOL

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@jofree yes, 72 here and experiencing the same “life issues” — cancer, heart etc etc. But, my husband and I get up each morning and go! We camp, go shopping, eat out occasionally, do gkids baseball, softball, basketball games etc etc. Don’t stop living because of a few aches and pains. Whew! I need a nap—LOL

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@gmarosie ====
I think folks getting near our age, really need more sleep than anything else. Your comment, "Whew! I need a nap---LOL," is so true. I used to run on 4 to 6 hours an evening, stay up late, relax and read, go to bed and wake up totally refreshed; not now; read awhile, toss and turn awhile , eat a banana, back to bed and crawl out slowly. Thanks, it's great to be reminded that were all involved in life together, all along the way.
Jofree

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