@shmerdloff
It is human to connect. We are gregarious, but our culture has somehow produced toxic narcissists with whom connection is painful. Jung says that at some point the trusting innocent has had enough and knows the routine of disrespect/abuse better than the narcissist. So enlightened, he or she may choose to avoid, or, if connected, keep the toxicity at arm's length (which is not an authentic relationship).
Zen Buddhists call it non-attachment. You care, but you are not sucked in and shredded.