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Mourning the loss of son and family after the death of my husband
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Dec 26, 2025 | Replies (14)Comment receiving replies
What kind of jackass does something like this to his own mother? Did you do anything in the past that could even remotely justify him treating you like this? What does your other son have to think about all of this?
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@mrmacabre First of all I want all to know that I had a horrible mother. I left everyone when I was 24 to get away from her. Some of her bad behavior may have been passed on to me. I have talked to my other son. He recalled that I had a "hair-trigger temper" and screamed a lot. This was a jolt for me because that's exactly what she did. The difference between the sons is that older son was willing to listen to me and immediately identified what I did so many years ago as learned behaviour. The grief therapist I consulted also gave me a diagnosis of PTSD due to child abuse and abandonment. The difference also between the boys is that older son was willing to talk and find out what was going on and we are closer than ever. Younger son just closed up. After a couple of attempts at reconciliation I have had it. I am too old to endure all this pain. So I gave younger son the gift of ending all communications. It is hurtful but I will get through it.