Marilyn,
I'm so sorry you have been treated this way by your family and also after losing your husband earlier. That is so hard for you and it is not right of your son and his family to act this way! I don't blame you for feeling so bad. My husband died in 2024. My son also doesn't speak to me and hasn't contacted me in 20 years and I don't really know why. I could really use his help now but I know I will never get it. I know how lonely and hurtful this can be. It isn't right but it happens. I gave my son back to God and told him to straighten him out. I don't feel like I have a son anymore. You did your best toward them; appologizing when you probably didn't need to and sending a nice card and email. It states in the Bible that children will turn against their parents and I guess that is happening a lot today. It's very sad. However, don't feel like you don't have a family. You have all of us on the Mayo Connect. We can be your family! Many of us don't have the most perfect families either! Please reach out whenever you want to talk. You are not alone! We will help you through this terrible time.
I will say a prayer for you.
PML