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Recent Stage 4 Colon Cancer diagnosis
Colorectal Cancer | Last Active: Dec 17, 2025 | Replies (43)Comment receiving replies
My husband was diagnosed with colon cancer stage IV. He already had two chemo treatments. I know he worries about me, he tries to do a lot on his own, but sometimes he pushes me away and that makes me feel alone . I tried to tell him that we're in this together, and everything is new to me as it's for him. I am taking one day at a time. I know that God is in control and His plans are perfect.
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@harry61, I agree with @apinzonc0627. This journey is step by step.
I can imagine that your husband is trying to hold on tight to his sense of control. He has to submit to being taken care of. He can't push the doctors, nurses, and others at the hospital away. So, when he's home, he wants to show (to himself) that he can do things for himself as usual, to keep things as normal as possible.
Sometimes being a caregiver can make you feel helpless. You want to help but the things you try to do are not what the patient wants. That's hard and I can understand that his not sharing that you're in this together make you feel alone. That hurts.
@harry61, he does need you and may need you more as chemo continues. I wonder if he needs you to keep up the appearances of everything being "normal". Sounds like he doesn't want any "fussing". I know my dad didn't want anything to change. My mom found it helped her to feel like she was doing something by doing research, creating a binder and listing what side effects she could look out for. My dad didn't find it helpful to know about the "possible" side effects in advance. He just wanted to deal with the ones he got if he got them. My mom, on the other hand, wanted to know what might happen. Does that sounds familiar?
What kinds of things do you like to do together?
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@harry61 asi esto es paso a paso y tener fe que todo saldra bien
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