We welcome you with ears to listen and thoughts to hug you.
Keep reading...read all the comments on here relating to dementia and caregiving. Look up Cleveland Clinic (dementia), Alzheimers Assn has a world of info for every cognitive problem, National Institute on Aging, Dementia Society of America, & for sure, download the My Alz Journey app. and look for caregiver support groups in your area, maybe stop at your local hospital to see if they can guide you (social services or outreach programs.
It was really difficult to get my husband to go to a neurologist. What I did, for myself, as I was trying to figure out the personality changes that I was noticing, (and this is over several months), I would just type into google, long sentences of an action or behavior that I witnessed from him and quite often I got specific information on what I had witnessed. I hope that makes sense.
I would often print or email to myself, the whole batch of information to look at over and over. in doing that, I had a better idea of what I could be dealing with. So I slowly started bringing up little things that he was doing that I was concerned with, things that could be signs of something wrong. I finally took steps to find a neurologist and presented him with the fact that I feel he needs to see this neurologist to address some of the forgetfulness (or whichever things you can bring up) because there could be a deficiency or medicinal interaction that is causing changes and it's just better to be safe and look into it sooner than later.
It's been almost a year since our first visit to a neurologist. I didn't like that first Dr., so we kept seeing his NP (who was a little more attentive than him) while I kept digging. We live in southern CA, so someone mentioned UCLA & USC to look to for help. I called UCLA Alzheimer & Dementia program, got papers to fill out and got on a waitlist to get in. He finally saw a NP there in Aug. for about 1 1/2 hours, then a neurologist from UCLA in Sept for about 2 hours.
My H still doesn't have a formal diagnosis, and he is still very self sufficient. But he gets confused about circumstances, following story plots, things on his phone a little. I can't talk to him about some things that need a decision because he isn't always rational. I have to pick and choose what information I include him on. Yes, it sucks, but, oh well.
I'm sorry about the long ramble, but if I can help someone navigate this more easily than I have been this past year, then it's worth it.
God bless.