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Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 14, 2025 | Replies (44)Comment receiving replies
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@tunared Oh Dan, I am so sorry. My docile sweet grandmother did go through THIS phase as well. My sister and I were still living with our parents as we were going through college. My grandmother lived with my parents as well, because she had gotten to a point she simply could not live unaunattended. She began hiding her personal things (like her dentures) thinking that "someone" was going steal them. The "someone" was almost always me. Everyone else in my family could work pretty well with her when she got this way. It is so difficult to understand the workings of their thoughts. My grandmother also would open doors and go outside, simply walking down the middle of the road. A busy one at that. My sister and parents became her caretakers 24/7 with an occasional visiting nurse...maybe once a week(?) I don't recall. Everything, except her occasional sweet smile changed. Even some of her language. She was bred and raised in the South. She would have been appalled if she were in her "right mind". All this to say, it hurts when you are the focus of their anger. Did I ask you if you have anyone other than your son to help? It might seem selfish (but it's not) to take care of yourself as well. I don't know where you live, but might there be social services you can obtain? As the disease became more pronounced, my granmother did become easier to work with. She was no longer able to talk and perhaps forgot more of the troubling issues that bothered her before. She was definitely less agitated. Again, I am deeply sorry you are going through this. This is one of the most horrible of diseases. 🙏🙏 I'm sure many of us here care. Reach out anytime.