@joanland Oh that is so nice!! (I'm not having a service..just cremated and spread out in front of a small log cabin my husband and his best friend (both in their 50's, friends since high school) built for me in our woods outside..my husband gone 14 years now and our friend, who took such good care of me until he became so ill..he couldn't.. gone 10 years now).. they will all just take what they want.. my husband's family (and all their respective ex's still call me "Aunt.. I love them so!! ..can divvy it all up.. fortunately they are all good people..(which wasn't the case when my husband before this one dropped dead with a heart attack.. in the yard.. I have seen how badly peple cane behave.. just awful!!