Lizzie
I am a little younger at 64. Fairly active but not a fitness freak by any means. My RARP was for prostatectomy for cancer. Have some agressive cancer findings in my pathology but clear margins and no breakthrough into surrounding tissue reported.
I think I made the right treatment decision but it is really hard when you have no symptoms prior!
Have no radiation planned and pray I dont need it.
I was planned to stay 2 nights but only needed one.
The incontinence is a worry too but have made some rapid gains there too so far.
Changed diet to mistly vegetarian and no red meat pre op and psa went down from 7 to 5.5.
Wish you and your husband all the very best in whatever route you choose. It isn't easy but with a supportive wife like mine and I can see, yourself it is much easier.
God bless. R