@sudie46 I truly believe the unbelievable stress, worry and heartache was a major factor in being diagnosed with breast cancer this year. He is 41. My only child...the best son in the world up until 2022. He went down the rabbit hole and there is no possibility at this point he is coming back up. Of course, you are right. But I fear losing him is going to make me very sick and depressed. It's a no win situation. Being blind to it is not working for me. I must confront him...he could kill himself, purposely or accidentality. And then how would I feel? I must at least try to help him, right? I never thought in a million years I, at age 70 and my son, at age 41 would be facing this at this time in our lives. Now should be the good years, right?
20 years for you? How do you do it? Do you have other adult children who support you?