@1995victoria The questions about daily activities by your doctor are NOT meant to be disrespectful, it is their way of subtly asking "how are you doing" and is one of a series of questions providers may use to get a full picture of your capabilities.

On one visit you may be asked about grocery shopping, on another about laundry, house cleaning, transportation, bill paying, etc. Over time, if your answers change, it gives an indication of whether your abilities are stable or declining. This is not ageist or discriminatory - our capacity does change as we age, and it is the provider's job to monitor this as part of your general health.

Maybe, if you are asked similar questions in the future, you could view it in this light, and politely ask "Why are you asking me this question?" The answer might surprise you.

By the way, if you are on Medicare and choose a new primary provider, you may be asked to complete a questionnaire with all of the above questions and more so they can get to know you. You may also have to answer a similar list of questions if you are hospitalized for illness or surgery before they release you.

There are plenty of things in this world to be indignant about - being offered help need not be one of them...