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My wife is furious at me 3 weeks post RARP
Prostate Cancer | Last Active: Nov 30 8:17pm | Replies (66)Comment receiving replies
@beaquilter: "I'd rather have a husband and no sex life vs a dead husband and still no sex life!"
This is where the rubber meets the road!
When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer & RARP, the surgeon told me that there was some biopsy evidence that the cancer had reached the surface of the prostate. He asked me if I wanted nerve-sparing surgery.
It took me THREE SECONDS to decide, using the metric above. I also asked myself, what would be my regrets if I made the wrong decision.
I have no regrets.
For some people, the possibility/probability of dying before one plans to, comes as a rude shock, particularly for younger people. It's best to have a realistic view of life & health that plans for the unplanned. That's probably as much as I should say in this discussion.
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I like the fact that your doctor gave you as much information but did not push you into a decision he wanted. When I was diagnosed with PC, my oncologist was/is very thorough and gave me information, options but wanted me to own MY decision. When I was diagnosed with PC, I chose to go with RARP because even in my early 70's I was healthy, stayed active and he felt I was a good candidate for the surgery. Had the surgery 3 months ago am still a bit tired at times but recovering well with PSA dropped to .04 I'm appreciate that he gave me good information but left decision with me....If there is recurrence I"m ready and will cross that bridge if/when needed....