Hang in there. The first few months after my RARP in 2015 were pretty brutal in terms of urinary incontinence. I finally got to using one or two pads per day. It was tolerable, but in 2023 I decided to have a urethral sling surgery (outpatient). Lots of post-surgical swelling and bruising, but I regained 100% urinary continence immediately. No more pads since then. My urologist put that option on the table right from the beginning and said it was there when and if I was ever ready for it. I wasn’t excited about doing yet another surgery, but man, looking back, I wish I had done it sooner.